Episode 27: Forever and Always with Dr. Matt Zanis

relationships Feb 01, 2021

Forever and Always with Dr. Matt Zanis

Kendall: Today I get to introduce you to my lovely partner in crime, Dr. Matthew, Janice. Today, we decided to sit down and record this podcast, to share a little bit about our journey and where it started. And we are going to really focus the month of February on this idea of love, because why not? It's Valentine's day, it's February. Everybody's talking about love and relationships and, you know, hot date nights and all of the sex and all sorts of great things. So we decided to share our journey and our story of just kind of where we are or how we got to where we are right here in this present moment, which started nothing less of a giggle Fest. 

We're going to take it laid back and kind of start to share where Matt and I met and where we really started our journey because even though as most of you know, who've been following along and listening to our journey, even though Matthew and I closed our container at the end of 2020, it wouldn't be an honor to talk about where we are today without where we started.

Matt: Taking it back to 2018, then I, I think that this deserves a little bit of a backstory on my part, because we've actually known each other for quite a while, or at least known of each other for a number of years. I was actually once previously married back in the day, it feels like forever ago now. And Kendall and I had met, Oh God, I was what, 2015 ish. Somewhere around in there in a CrossFit gym. So I was actually still, uh, engaged at the time and I was committed. There was always, um, I guess, something different about you and our connection that we started back in 2015, because it always felt like there were some sparks right. Throughout those years, different occasions.

There are these red flags, you know, hindsight is 2020 and not aware of them in the moment. You save face and you do what you need to do because you made a commitment and you keep moving forward until you can't anymore. And you've had enough. I started doing a lot of work on myself for the last two years in that marriage.

Personal, deep work and starting to figure out who I was. And then I'd gone away on a trip. My very one of my very first trips with the United States Olympic committee to an Island out in Malta, which is actually quite ironic because for a lot of that relationship and even in my professional life, I kind of feel like I was on an Island and I was alone and isolated and secluded from the rest of the world, which was, I thought about it as a negative back then, but it is quite so much a positive now.

That is actually, where that marriage came to an end because as I was on that trip, I was full of so much life and passion and purpose. I was traveling the world. I was so, so happy and then she was supposed to come meet me on that Island. As the days came closer and closer to her coming, I became more depressed, sad and very empathetic as well. My athletes and my coaches saw that, which was really interesting. They saw total energetic shift in me. And in that moment I knew that things needed to change

I'm going to fast forward, like six months later, six to eight months later after that a divorce went through and I'm scrolling through Instagram. I see one of Kendall's stories come up and it's just a bottle of Suntory whiskey. And I just told you that I am a whiskey bourbon guy. So it was like, Oh, I've never had this one before. I'm intrigued. So I sent her a quick little message and I was like, Oh, what kind of whiskey is that? Like, what does taste like that type of stuff? And you just responded.

Kendall: While Matt's figuring out his life divorcing his wife, all, all his journey, my journey was very clearly really looking at what did I want in terms of a partnership? I think I had always dreamed of having this relationship and partnership that set my soul on fire that was really, truly inspiring and really encompassing all areas of life. And I never felt comfortable speaking that into existence. I never wanted to say that it was something that I really desired until I also started doing a lot of work on myself. And so that was 2015, 2016, where I was getting really crystal clear on what I wanted in a partnership and in a relationship because it took that self reflection for myself of who I was.

Matt and I first met in 2015 ish in the CrossFit gym, I wasn't no place where I wanted a relationship. Absolutely not. I was traveling the world. I was kicking in my career. I was doing really incredible things and I was having the time of my life. And I wasn't ready to settle in a relationship because I knew the amount of work and the commitment that I wanted to put into that. And I wasn't willing to settle for anything less than that.

We hadn't chatted in a long time. I was like, isn't this guy married? Why he sliding into my dams? So I started off with, yeah, it's a Japanese whiskey. It's really like artfully made. You should check it out. If you enjoy bourbon left it at that. Well, it's like cool. He was just curious about the whiskey. And then he slipped slides back into my DM again. And it was like, so like, how are you? How how's life? I was like, what the? Isn't this dude married?

 Matt:There was just this innate sense of security and safety that I felt between the two of us. Um, that was, I guess, a start up like listening a little bit more to my intuition and trusting that inner voice was telling me, cause I pushed it down for so, so long, uh, years before that. Um, so yeah, just, just listening to that and it's like, I felt comfortable. I was being just really raw and authentic and vulnerable and um, for no other reason than you gave me permission to do it.

Kendall: He definitely works for his purpose. He's like super passionate about what he does with movement and the Olympics. Okay. Check communication. Well, check. We're having a really open, vulnerable conversation right now. K check, um, adventure, spontaneity, mind, body, spirit wellness kid. That seems like his lifestyle. He likes to travel. Okay. He likes to eat well. He's got a bang and hot body. Okay. We're good there. Check physical touch and sexual chemistry. At this point, I was starting to feel the sexual chemistry and there might've been a couple like, let me touch your knee or touch your shoulder. Or like, and I was like, is he trying to put the moves on me? So I was starting to feel that the energy there and then connection to source and spirit talking to him about his self development work that he was doing, he seemed really anchored in that space. I was like, Oh. I think he has all five of my non-negotiables.

During today's episode we talk about:

  • How did Kendall and Matt meet?
  • How did Kendall and Matt get clear on what they wanted from a partnership?
  • What are Kendall's non-negotiable in a partnership?
  • How their relationship was the catalyst for Kendall's purpose? 

Memorable Moments:

  • "I think I had always dreamed of having this relationship and partnership that set my soul on fire that was really, truly inspiring and really encompassing all areas of life. And I never felt comfortable speaking that into existence. I never wanted to say that it was something that I really desired until I also started doing a lot of work on myself." Kendalll
  • "There was just this innate sense of security and safety that I felt between the two of us." -Matt
  • "I think through our relationship together was really the catalyst to open up the doors of what my purpose has always been to connect deeply with people and make people think differently. And so I think that because we had such a passionate and intimate connection, it was the catalyst for me to do my own work." Kendall

Connect with Matt:

  • Instagram: @rootedinmvmt
  • Online: https://rooted-in-mvmnt.mykajabi.com 

 

In light, in love, and in gratitude, K

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