I'm showing up and I'm sharing this with you because I know I am not alone and I know that this experience is opening me up to love deeper for myself and for my partner. I am so grateful for the lessons for the way that this journey has been and I know that where it's going is exactly where it needs to go.
The purpose of recording this today isn't to sit here and sob and be sad, but to really honor processing and feeling of emotions, something that's really been resonating and coming up is how we're not taught to feel what we're really feeling to just honor the fact that you can be sad to honor the fact that you can be hurt and to just make space. When we give ourselves permission to feel and move this energy through our bodies, we can all come out as that. We can transmute it and we can use it to create courage and strength and show up as the people that we are meant to be.
I think so many of us don't give ourselves space to feel these emotions. We end up pushing them down because we don't know that if we start to feel sadness if we'll ever stop feeling sad, if we start to feel anger, will we ever feel love? And when we can give ourselves the space to feel these emotions, when we can ride the wave of whatever emotion is coming up for us, as we ride that wave, it's allowing our soul to click back into place our heart, to open and expand, and our being to fully bring down the light that we are meant to shine on the planet. When we start to feel these overwhelming waves of emotions, if you are in a place to feel it feel it it's really only 90 seconds of riding that wave. Once we do, once we stop and cry it out, our heart clicks into place. Our soul clicks into place, and our mind gets clear. We can breathe. We can see, we can feel deeply.
What I like to do is to honor it and recognize it and say, okay, I feel really sad. This is what it feels like in my body. I honor you and I will come back to you when I can give you the love that you deserve. And I intentionally make space to feel my emotions, to really sit and embody what that feeling felt like in the moment and what I'm feeling at the present time, allowing that emotion, that sadness or whatever emotion it may be to come up and come through my body and just allow whatever needs to move, to move tuning into that beautiful wisdom that exists in my body can tell me if I need to dance. If I need to scream, if I need to take a shower, whatever that is, that's going to bring me back into my space and into my body.
This journey that I've been going on of the last 11 days, I have been through the entire roller coaster of all the human emotions. I've been, angry, hurt, sad, excited, hysterical, all the things.
I want to take a moment to just honor the bold courage that it takes to show up and share what I'm currently feeling. and my purpose of recording this today is just honoring this process that I'm moving through and knowing that it's exactly perfect. For those of you who are listening, I'm so, so grateful for the love, for the support for all of the deep care that I have felt over the last week. I'm so grateful to have you as part of my community and to know that the work I'm here to share with you is needed.
We look at relationships, I feel like we don't get really good examples of what intimate and loving and open communication and deeply honoring partnerships really looks like we don't learn these things growing up. It's not part of our education is how to be a good partner, how to honor our own emotions and experiences. And I think that this is work that needs to happen because we don't need to settle for less than what we deserve less than what we desire and less than what we know ee are truly worthy of. Learning to honor another for their own unique expression on this planet and feeling honored and return to receive love, to be fully seen, heard, and understood.
It doesn't mean that I can't honor the love that I have felt the pleasure I have experienced and the deep connection and vulnerability I have allowed myself to open too. I look back on my relationship with Matt and I know it was so divinely guided before Matt and I got together. I had casually dated. I had been single. I was focusing on me and who I wanted to be in the world. I didn't feel like I needed a partner or relationship to complete me because I had myself and some of that felt really good and then there was a part of me that really wanted to be in a partnership and a relationship. I knew that I had to be so clear on who I was and how I was supposed to show up so that I could call in the kind of partner that was going to honor me and meet me where I wanted to be and create the life that I wanted to create together.
I got crystal clear on my values, my expectations, what I wanted that partnership to look like and feel like, and who I needed to be in order to call that in. You've heard me talk a lot about my five non-negotiables. Those are still the values and the foundations that I stand on today. The first one is purpose because I have to live my life in alignment with my higher purpose. And my purpose is to help people deeply connect with soul centered sexuality. This is big work. I am breaking the mold and changing the world, and I'm not doing it alone. There are so many beautiful creators on this planet that share a vision of embracing and honoring our sexuality and being able to create a safe space to have this conversation. It takes courage and it feels like sometimes we are screaming and fighting and we have an uphill battle to fight because it's such a taboo topic and it's so not accepted in the world today. I know that if I live my life in alignment with my purpose, then I can help create more expansion for all of you and everybody else in the world. We get to raise the next generation of conscious lovers by embracing our own sexuality by leading by example, in what true partnership and deep love feels like.
I know that this is part of my bigger purpose is to anchor this truth onto the planet. It's taking me living through my own journey and where I'm at. I know that my partner has equally as big of a purpose, and I know that he is so aligned and so expansive on bringing that purpose to life to my second non-negotiable and value is communication, vulnerable, raw, real communication. It's not always pretty. It's not always processed. It's not always perfect, but it's real sharing exactly how we feel, what we need and how do we communicate it to each other takes to first, the time to be able to communicate it to yourself, honoring the fact that you can take the time to reflect and feel, and process and communicate what you need to yourself so that you can show up and communicate it with a partner.
I love the consistency of communication, where if you're thinking about me, send me a text message. Tell me you love me. Tell me you think I'm so sexy and you can't wait to ravish me later, but also make the space to have those deep, tough conversations and meet me with compassion. Hold the container, set the intentions so that we can reveal the deeper truths about ourselves and be met with love and not judgment. Because again, we're human beings. We're living this life exactly as we're supposed to and when we can anchor in these foundations and communicate openly, we can do anything together. My third value is adventure, spontaneity, mind, body, spirit wellbeing. Being able to just ravish the pleasures of life, evolving and growing and learning, nourishing my body with all the things that create a holistic lifestyle, moving and eating and drinking well, experiencing the world around us with curiosity and enthusiasm, being able to trust our intuitive wisdom and knowledge and guidance to go and flow and move and do all the things that we are meant to do. Being able to have fun and experience life with pleasure.
My fourth value might be my favorite is having juicy and delicious sexual connection. Knowing that physical touch is my number one love language. I want to be ravished. I want to be devoured. I want my body to be absolutely worshiped. I want to experience the whole range of eroticism and sexuality. I want to try new things that feel expansive and saturating being able to fully open my body to the pleasure that it is capable of willfully connect me, not only to my humanity, but it bridges the beautiful journey of our divinity and our spiritual and energetic selves. When we can open ourselves to this type of sexuality, we get to meet ourselves and another in a way that is deeply intimate and shared between these two people. I know that my partner gets to crack open and experience my soul through my body and I honor this deeply and sex is also really fun. It feels amazing, and it's natural. It's normal. It's something that should be celebrated in everyday life.
My last non-negotiable and value is having a connection to source and spirit. Being able to do that deeper work on ourselves, to remember our soul's purpose and journey in this life, expanding into who we're meant to be an honoring, who we've been by being present in the current moment, this connection to source and spirit and angels and our guides and our team allows us to know that we are so supported. We can trust that we're right where we need to be.
You look back at these values and I reflect on who I am. I know that I am living in soul alignment. I know that these values guide me in how I need to show up every day. It also is how I need my partner to show up with me. We have to have committed understanding and accountability of who we need to be as individuals in order for us to show up for another one. I look at where my relationship has been. It has been so good. And so many of these values were true, and I believe that they are still true.
I look at where I am and where it's going and at this point I can only trust that it is unfolding exactly as it should.
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In light, in love, and in gratitude, K