Episode 45: The Art of Oral Sex: Honoring Pussy

Uncategorized Jun 07, 2021

The Art of Oral Sex: Honoring Pussy

This episode I hope is an opportunity for you to reconsider and reframe your perspectives. If you're maybe on the fence, if you already love giving or receiving oral sex, this is an episode to expand your mindset even more, to give you more tips, more tricks, more tools, things so that you can really expand your own art of oral sex and honor for the magic that exists there.

When we think about honoring giving oral sex, receiving oral sex, it's not just about the pleasure and the orgasm. If you've heard many of my other episodes, you know, that I talk a lot more about soul centered sexuality and connecting to the meaning behind it and oral sex is one of the ways that we can honor the woman, the vulva owner, the owner, and honor her thrill honoring her body. Now oral sex is something that is totally an art form. It takes practice. We don't just automatically know how to give good head. We don't automatically know how to pleasure a. When we think about oral sex, oral sex is so much more than just foreplay. It's a great way to think about foreplay, and it can be a part of building into a more penetrative pleasure session, but this can be the end all be all.

It can be a session just about oral sex and honoring. It's an opportunity to worship the woman for her entire being and her entire body and one of the things to consider about oral sex is that each woman is an individual. Her body is unique in the way that it looks the way that it smells. The way that it tastes and as an individual, it's important for you to honor your own own body. If you were the one giving oral sex, it's important to honor each body for being individual. A lot of women carry shame and guilt about what their bodies look like. So the more enthusiasm, the more acknowledgement, the more you can compliment the woman's body, the woman's tastes, the woman's smell. The more she can ease into receiving pleasure. Sure. Now for you, it's important for you to build a connection with your own, whether that's through self-pleasure and starting to get to understand what feels delicious, what feels so pleasurable within your, and maybe it's even stepping into doing some mirror work and looking at yourself in the mirror before you move into an interaction with a partner to where you would be receiving oral sex, so that you can really start to build that connection and pleasure within your own body and honor yourself for what you look like and honor every individual aspect from the color of your skin, the folds, and just start to honor your body for being exactly perfect.

When we start to think about oral sex mindset is everything. We, I always want to approach oral sex with enthusiasm, whether we are giving or receiving oral sex. The other thing to consider when it comes to the mindset of oral sex is we want to start to think about pleasure over orgasms. We talk about this a lot when we, when it comes to our self pleasure when it comes to just our sex in general, but especially when it comes to oral sex is when we, you can remove the goal of orgasm and focus on the subtle sensations of pleasure. We get to activate pleasure within the whole body. And this is a beautiful, beautiful way to do that and to feel it so loved and so honored as you are receiving oral sex. So especially when we start to look at women, when we start to look at the way that we experience pleasure, women, experience pleasure from the outside in so really important that when we're experiencing oral sex, that we don't go bright for the, right?

Really starting to think about taking your time, focusing on pleasure over orgasm is one of the key elements of really honoring when it comes to our oral sex. Let's talk a little bit about the art of receiving. If you are the receiver of oral sex, let's start off by considering your current perspectives of oral sex.

What are your current beliefs? How do you feel about it, maybe that takes some reflection on some of your past experiences with oral sex. Maybe you've had some really mind blowing oral sex in the past, and that's a similar type of experience that you would like to have, or maybe you've had an oral sex in the past. That's been really underwhelming and not super pleasurable. As you start to reflect on your mindset of receiving oral sex, this is really important to make sure that you are in the right mindset when you are going to receive.

Then reflect on your intention. How do you actually want to go about receiving? How do you need to set up your space, remove distractions, quiet your mind, and focus on the pleasure that exists in your body. Maybe it's setting the intention to really connect with your breath through this experience and expanding your pleasure throughout your whole body, and then reflect on what will the impact be when you can receive oral pleasure in this way, how is it going to make you feel afterwards? What is that going to feel like in your body? So when you are thinking about the art of receiving again, remove the pressure of orgasming and most women can't actually reach orgasm by experiencing oral sex alone. So know that you're not alone, know that it's okay. If you don't reach the goal of orgasm, you can still experience so much pleasure.

Doing some self-pleasure before you interact with a partner is a great way to really start to build that connection. And especially doing some neuro work, because when it comes to oral sex, we are breathed bringing our most private place to somebody most public place. We are literally getting face-to-face with our genitals. If you can't even look at your own with honor and reverence, how can you expect somebody else to a lot of women like to consider their hygiene before they move into an oral sex experience? Taking a shower or a bath before it can also help you relax into your pleasure.

If you're having some fear or stress that comes up for you, trust that lean into that and know that, and you are choosing a partner who's going to honor and worship you. That partner is going to respect you for the truth of your heart. You can fully communicate that and express that if you, you feel tears start to well up, that's okay. Let them go. That's part of the energy that's moving and especially when oral sex is so, so intimate and so, so vulnerable. Honor the full range of expressions that are going to come through for you and then as you are really leaning into the art of receiving oral sex, don't forget to enjoy it.

You can amplify the pleasure that exists with your body by using breath, sound and movement. To really start to pull that energy through your whole body, making beautiful moans and audible exhales will also communicate to your partner that you're enjoying what they're doing. If you amplify it with your breath and you breathe into the pleasure and expand those exhales like we did at the beginning of this episode, that will help you the pleasure within your body. As you can move, you can even just think about moving your fingertips across your skin, or gently gyrating your hips. As you are receiving pleasure that will help to move the energy and amplify the pleasure in your body. This is so fun. It's playful. It feels delicious. Lean into that pleasure and fully enjoy it.

Let's talk a little bit about the art of giving pleasure when it comes to giving oral sex. If you are the giver, start to also reflect on your own perspectives, beliefs, and past experiences, how have you done it before? Do you feel like you give really good head or maybe you're practicing and trying to learn some new tips and tricks? That's okay too. As you start to reflect on your past experiences and your beliefs, it's also important for you as the giver to reflect on your own purpose, intention and impact. What's the purpose of you giving oral sex? Is that something that you want to use as the foundation of worshiping your partner, honoring her body for every inch, every curve, every line, every fold. Start to connect with your greater purpose and think about your own intentions that you want to set.

Maybe that is communicating to your partner, that you want to remove the pressure of orgasm and have her truly drop into the pleasure that exists within her body and focus on those subtle sensations. Maybe it's reflecting on how you want her to breathe and just relax into the pleasure that you are giving her and then reflect on the impact. What is it going to do for your partnership, for your relationship, for the individual who is receiving, what is the impact going to feel like? And what has that impact gonna feel like for you when you can give delicious and loving oral sex?

It's always important to focus on giving pleasure, having that enthusiasm. When you show up as the giver will be felt by the person who is receiving your oral sex. So be excited, get into the moment and always maintain deep presence. The more presence, the more awareness, the more love and enthusiasm you can give. The more you will be able to connect with the receiver and notice the subtle sensations that exist within her body. So as you lean into that, remember that you, as the giver are honoring the woman through her body, her whole body, and as you can do that, that enthusiasm is contagious. When you are making love to her with your mouth, with your hands, with your body, you will give such delicious pleasure. That is felt on a deep level within that receiver's heart. Always communicate what you're doing. You can ask, how does this feel? Do you want more pressure, less pressure? Do you want me to massage you in a different way? How would you like to feel it's okay to communicate either before, during or after.

In the act, it's important to remember, to slow down, build that into the patient. Remember a woman receives pleasure from the outside in so taking your time to caress her body, tell her how beautiful she is, running your fingers through her hair, massaging and caressing, her breasts, maybe licking her nipples and honoring her heart space because we express pleasure through our hearts. Making that time to honor our heart space is a great way to lead in and help the receiver fully relax into the pleasure. Sure. Honor the whole whole body. Take your time. Kiss her wrists, kiss her lips, massage her shoulders, rub her back, move your hands up. Her thigh guys, grab her, touch everyone. Part of her and build that anticipation. Using your mouth, using your hands. You could even use other things like a feather or ice cubes to start to build some other sensations that exist, but make her crave your mouth on her. You want her to be literally begging you for more. That anticipation will amplify the pleasure within the receiver's body. Every subtle touch and sensation feels extra delicious.

You want to know that while we're oral sex is focused with using your mouth, you can also use your hands. So being gentle in how you start to explore her pubic area, kissing along the pubic bone and gently touching along her outer labia, her inner labia, gently licking her lips and noticing how she starts to soften and open for you. As you explore different types of touch, don't always move right into pleasuring. The clutter is go slow and ease into that. Pleasure gently use your lips and your tongue to open her deeper and always think about how you are honoring her heart through her body or giving delicious pleasure. Another type of touch that you can explore is the, the process of edging.

Edging is where you are bringing the woman up to almost a point of no return, and then backing off a little bit so that you can expand pleasure in a more delicious way now, not all women enjoy edging. Make sure you do communicate or your present to feel if she's enjoying that. As you are exploring your feeling or folds her lips notice the subtle sensations and changes within her body, as you are present and listening, start to feel how her body is changing, how her breath changes, be aware of any moans or size that come out of her body and know that you are in control of giving her the most delicious pleasure. Take your time and may get so honorable feeling her entire body feeling who she is in the world as a woman and as a being as a soul, feel the depths of her heart.

Start to notice the lubrication that comes. You can use extra lubrication from your saliva in your mouth and use that with your tongue to lick it up and over and around her. And you may notice that she starts to expand her lubrications so tell her how good she tastes and tell her that you love the way she smells. As you feel her lubrication grow and deepen and expand, start to really appreciate it as that beautiful nectar that comes from her soul. Some women even will start to squirt or feel more of a gushing type of liquid and squirting is not necessarily orgasming. Don't be alarmed and honor that for the sacred experience that it is, tell her how sexy it is and how much you love, the way she gushes in your mouth.

If you notice that she is coming close to reaching orgasm, it's really important as the giver to don't change what you're doing. Maintain speed and pressure and intensity so that as she'd go reaches that peak of orgasm, she can actually lean into it and experience it. So when you start to think about orgasm, that can feel a lot for the receiver and allowing her to lean into the pleasure that she just experienced. It's really important to consider your aftercare ritual. After she reaches orgasm or as your oral sex session is coming to a close, make sure you place your hand on heart and tell her how beautiful she is, how much you love her, how much you appreciate her, maybe just cuddling up with her and breathing together.

Allow her to save her that pleasure that she just experienced. When you start to think about oral sex, there's so many components and the thing to remember most is reflect on your own perspectives of oral sex. If you are the receiver, know that you are in a beautiful, safe space to just receive pleasure. If you are the giver, know that you get to give this sacred gift of honoring and worshiping her so that she can feel loved and feel that honor through her body, as you are diving into different types of pleasure. No, that oral sex is one of the most intimate and vulnerable spaces. So maybe you spend some time after your oral sex pleasure session, discussing how that went, what felt really good. What did you love? What was your favorite part? And that can create even deeper intimacy within the two of you. So as you are exploring oral sex and really diving into the art of honoring, I want to know how it goes for you. I love all the dirty details. So make sure you slide into my DMS and let me know how it's going. Or if you have any questions, if this brought up some different curiosities for you, or you want to know more about different types of touch and exploration, send me a message and let's dive in so that you can experience the most delicious oral.

During today's episode I talk about:

  • How can we change our perspectives around oral sex?
  • Why is it important to honor your own body?
  • How can women start to honor their bodies? 
  • How can you set intentions and open up to receiving?
  • How can self-pleasure play a role in receiving oral sex?
  • How can you communicate with your partner and why is it so important?

Memorable Moments:

  • "As you start to reflect on your past experiences and your beliefs, it's also important for you as the giver to reflect on your own purpose, intention and impact." 
  • "When you start to think about oral sex, there's so many components and the thing to remember most is reflect on your own perspectives of oral sex. If you are the receiver, know that you are in a beautiful, safe space to just receive pleasure. If you are the giver, know that you get to give this sacred gift of honoring and worshiping her so that she can feel loved and feel that honor through her body, as you are diving into different types of pleasure."

In light, in love, and in gratitude, K 

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