Episode 25: Effortlessly Stylish for Bisexual and Bicurious Women Only with Genevieve LeJune, Founder of Skirt Club

sexuality Jan 18, 2021

Effortlessly Stylish for Bisexual and Bicurious Women Only with Genevieve LeJune, Founder of Skirt Club

Kendall: I'm so excited to introduce you to Genevieve Lejune, the founder of Skirt Club. Tell us a little bit about who you are and what your journey has been to show up and shine your light on the world today.
 
Genevieve: I started Skirt Club  seven years ago now. It's a community that's online, for women who identify as BI curious or bisexual. We really specialize in helping first timers get to grips with their sexuality and discovering it at their own pace, um, and true to their own desires. Without the presence of men, so they are not influenced and feel fully in control of what it is that they're looking for by feeling their way. That is the premise of Skirt Club and I started this company, whilst I was living in London, I'm now living in Miami. Things have changed, but, uh, but back then I was working a very boring job in finance. And, um, guess what I was looking for some fun at the weekend. I had a little passion project of mine, was to host these events for ladies only and I myself was struggling to meet other women like me. I didn't know how to go about it. So I thought, well, I'll just throw my own parties and we'll see what happens. Then before I knew it, of course it blown out of all proportion and now it's my full-time job and I don't sleep or eat without thinking about Skirt Club because it consumes me entirely. I hear that we're making women happy all over the world so I'm good with that.
 
Kendall: When we look at that journey of exploring your sexual fluidity and being bisexual or BI curious, what is some of those initial desires that most women are maybe starting to come to terms with and embrace and start to say, Oh, this could be something that's for me.
 
Genevieve: Well, I think we, we all sort of know that the sort of low frequency field they're about something else. And look, the, these days, women are much younger discovering that feeling. I was in my mid twenties for the time I acted on it, but we don't always have the friends and a support group to show us how, and we don't want to talk about it either because we're all a little bit embarrassed. Sexuality is private and you should be able to trust, you know, your closest friends to discuss that with, but they don't know where you're coming from. It's a little bit tricky. Having a community that's all in the same boat gives you a great network of friends. You can confide in and potentially have a friendship with benefits. You know, it's a win-win for everybody.
 
 Kendall: That's such a beautiful space to be able to create and have that container for women to explore. Let's talk a little bit about feminine sexuality, because it's one of my favorite things to talk about. We can spend lots of time going over this, but what are some of your favorite things about feminine sexuality, the feminine form women and all of the things that encompassed who we are?
 
Genevieve: I love women, obviously, you know, I work with them. They are my members. I surround myself with my family is very female and, um, obviously all my best friends are, and there's only one man in my life, my husband and he's definitely outnumbered. I think women are all encompassing. I believe women have both the IQ and the EEQ to make fantastic leaders. They feel that way as well as thinking their way through and that makes a human whole. I've just read an article today or Forbes about the women of 2020 and one lineup, but it's like 150 of them exceptional leaders who are leading with their hearts and doing the right thing for humanity and the environment. I mean, I wish I just wish we'd done this sooner, right? I mean, can we go back in time please?
 
Kendall: Well, and giving us the courage and the space to step into that role as leaders. I think, when we look at women, as leaders just gave a speech this week, to our women's networking group about, you know, our divine power and owning our confidence with presence and grace and a huge component of that is our sexuality.
 
Genevieve: Now we've been told that we need to control our emotions. They get called crazy. You know, if we get out of step out of line and display too many of those emotions and it's really quite demeaning, like I really do think there is a lot of, sometimes there is a lot of overreaction, but it's in response to being told that you can't react and that's, that's suppressing your emotions.
 
Emotions being able to move from our hurt and drop into that vulnerability is a really powerful, uh, way for us to do things that is going to heal and change the world
 
Kendall: What makes you so unique in a way that women can tap into that sexuality?
 
Genevieve: I truly believe it's because we are genuinely a hundred percent run by women. Every event you come to has been lovingly thought through, by a woman who is going to be there and is going to enjoy it herself. She's clearly a invested interest. But you know, we come at this from the approach of let's have fun. Let's enjoy our lives, let's have the best we can. I mean, make it work in a way that is luxurious and elegant and something, a woman, any dreams of and fantasizes about, it's, you know, if Skirt Club for me as a community with events and the events are, you know, they can be in a bar and sun networking type fun events, or there could be more extreme, like a play party, but even then the play party is a hybrid approach. There's talks and burlesque performances and games, and a lot of talking. And then towards the end of the night, you've got a little bit more that, of that typical sex party feel where the bedrooms have definitely followed women enjoying themselves.
 
Kendall: Well, and that's, you know, when we look at women and sexuality, it you're right. Like connection is the driver. That is the thing is how do we feel that connection to ourselves, to our own power, to another woman to be fully seen and witnessed for all the beauty that we have to share. And I believe that skirt club creates this, this incredible container for women to step into that. And I think society today needs more of that focus on connection.
 
How do you see the women of skirt club showing up in the world differently because they have this container to explore?
 
Genevieve: I love this question because of course it harks back to our motto at Skirt Club, which is confidence in the bedroom gives you confidence in the boardroom. Something, I experienced myself firsthand whilst working in finance and London and, you know, very much being the only girl in the office, which is typical in the industry but also feeling rather demeaned for it. Right? So there, I was making the tea for everybody at the meeting. Why am I even doing that? I don't even know, and basically quiet mouse in the corner and then I start hosting these events and I'm expressing myself authentically as a bisexual woman. And all of those barriers came down. I didn't feel the same crippling shyness that I used to. And it's like a breath of fresh air. I walked into the office on Monday morning. I'm like, I've been so bit that weekend that none of you guys would ever do or have the balls to do in my head.
 
Kendall: Can we dive in a little bit into a play party, a signature event and talk about some of the luxuries that come along with it and what that would look like for somebody who would be considering attending
 
Genevieve: I promise there's not one person that, that leaves it out saying, Oh my God, I think I just, I just changed my whole view on life. This is an awakening I was just waiting to happen. We keep it a little guest book. I do encourage women as they're leaving sort of half dressed and with one eye open to seven champagnes and to write their thoughts. I think mostly because of the acceptance and the non-judgment that happens there, you know, I read that because that's my personality and my team take on the roles, knowing that this is how they should be and everything's accepted doesn't matter.
 
You learn something and then we'll have a performance, usually some kind of burlesque or ballet. A couple of our members are in the arts and they always want to perform for us, of course and then we'll dive into some games. And of course, things get a little naughty from here onwards. One of our favorite games, is body tequila, which, or body shots you guys might say, and we'll ask a volunteer to come lay on the table, in her laundry. And of course she's dressed in her laundry perfectly, right? So she wants to show it off. And two volunteers will stand on either side line, her legs, her breasts, and her neck with salt. And then they have to race stop on the counter three looking assault, um, down in the shots of tequila, which I'm holding and then kissing the wedge of line from her mouth. And whoever gets the name is the winner. So they're on the table next. No one everyone's a winner. And of course the clothes never go back on. So at that point, there's just a pile of clothing in the corner. Everyone's skimping around the five bedrooms. Nobody knows who's what anymore.
 
Kendall: I love the elements of like learning something and gaining and being entertained. I think, you know, our sexuality is worth feeling and reveling in all of those delicious desires and fantasies of the, from the environment and the space to the smells, to the taste and every sensation that our body can experience and being able to fully indulge in it. And I love that it's like this heightened peak experience, but it also reminds us to take that back into our daily life and to be able to say, how do we create this environment for our sexuality to be luxurious and desired and all of those beautiful ways.
 
When you start to look at female sexuality and women who are starting to explore, um, what are some of the things that they love learning about when it comes to female sexuality?
 
Genevieve: Bear in mind that that most of our guests, um, probably have had no experience, to little experience. They are desperate to know how to flirt with another woman. We got a lot of questions around, okay. If I like somebody, how do I let them know? And when is the right time to go in for a kiss and how do I signal that? That's what I want and how do I make sure she says yes, before I do it, which is beautiful because here we are, as women considering consent before we've even about talking to her, that's don't do that. So yeah, that causes a lot of nerves.
 
What to expect, it's mind awakening, honestly. Um, you learn a lot about yourself and because you're not allowed to have your phone on you and you're not allowed to be persuaded by a partner, you are truly on your own. And we don't do that much anymore.

In today's episode we talk about:

  • What is Skirt Club?
  • How did Genevieve start Skirt Club and how has it grown to what it is today?
  • What are some of the initial desires women experience when they come to terms with their sexuality?
  • What are some of her favorite things about female sexuality?
  • How does sexuality play a role in women's ability to be a strong leader?
  • How does Skirt Club allow women to tap into their sexuality?

Memorable Moments:

  • "Emotions being able to move from our heart and drop into that vulnerability is a really powerful, uh, way for us to do things that is going to heal and change the world" - Kendall
  • " I truly believe it's because we are genuinely a hundred percent run by women. Every event you come to has been lovingly thought through, by a woman who is going to be there and is going to enjoy it herself. She's clearly a invested interest." - Genevieve
  • "What to expect, it's mind awakening, honestly. Um, you learn a lot about yourself and because you're not allowed to have your phone on you and you're not allowed to be persuaded by a partner, you are truly on your own. And we don't do that much anymore." - Genevieve
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In light, in love, and in gratitude, K

  

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